Dating is difficult in this day and age. Especially online dating. I have found that most people who have minimal information about you think they’re in a position to judge you. They gather a couple of pieces of information fail to ask questions for clarification then judge you based on their past personal experiences. Why are we like this? Since taking NLP classes I have learned that when we don’t ask questions, we miss 90% of the communication. And when asking questions for clarification people give vague answers. So the questions welled up in me: Do we even want to be understood? We may say we do but what do our actions tell us? Do people even stop to look at things from different angles anymore? When did we really stop thinking and reflecting and just jump to judgement because it’s easier to cope with who we are? I’ve learned to keep an open mind and reflect what the meaning of my communication is. Yet I feel like an alien sometimes when trying to communicate clearly with someone. Growing up in Germany I’ve come to be pretty direct. When I moved to the United States I learned to sugar coat things because peoples egos here are very fragile. But what is the meaning of my communication? Being psychic I sometimes received information about people or situations or places etc. I have learned to keep that information to myself and have yet to learn how to always use it to benefit all. Are most of us really locked into our own little reality and we make people out to be who we want them to be to feel good about ourselves? Like take someone pushing a button like the anger button. Someone says something and you get angry. You may think: they’re pissing me off, they are trying to make me angry, they lack this or that. But what’s really going on? Does the other person really want to piss you off? Are you certain they want to make you angry? Or are they simply expressing themself? They didn’t put the button on you, they’re just pushing it for you see what you need to work on. They’re showing you where you’re loosing self-control and what part of you needs healing. Unless you’re in danger, anger is an unuseful explosion of energy. When will we stop pointing the finger and others for our shortcomings and our triggers and take charge of self and our life. When we blame others we give our power away! Question is do you even want to be powerful? Or are you ready to accept responsibility for everything that you create. Mostly unconsciously but we do create our own life experience! We are the ones really in charge and we may include our will within Gods/Universes will! So what are you creating in your life and is it desirable?
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